Dr. Butch Losey

Held in Scottsdale and Fountain Hills Arizona

Infidelity Crisis & Recovery Retreat: A Private, Intensive Experience for Couples Facing Betrayal
Scheduled on Request​

Cost: A budget will be developed with the couple. You should expect the cost to be around $4000

 

This is a private retreat scheduled over 4 days in Arizona.

 

Discovering infidelity can create one of the most destabilizing crises a couple will ever experience. Questions, intrusive thoughts, intense emotions, uncertainty about what is true, and fear about the future can quickly overwhelm both partners. Traditional weekly counseling can be helpful, but during an infidelity crisis, couples sometimes need more time, structure, and support than a single therapy hour can provide.

 

The Infidelity Crisis & Recovery Retreat is a private, multi-day therapeutic experience designed specifically for one couple and their therapist. Rather than offering a predetermined path toward reconciliation, the retreat creates concentrated time to understand the impact of the betrayal, stabilize the immediate crisis, address questions and disclosure, begin rebuilding emotional safety, and determine what healing needs to look like for both partners and the relationship.

 

Throughout the retreat, couples move between assessment, therapist-facilitated conversations, education, and meaningful experiences together. We will examine the impact of the infidelity, the history and vulnerabilities surrounding the relationship, intrusive thoughts and rumination, disclosure, trust, and the magnitude of the betrayed partner's pain. Depending upon the couple's needs and readiness, the retreat may also include a facilitated disclosure process or therapist-coached dialogues around the conversations necessary for healing.

 

But recovery from infidelity requires more than understanding what happened. Couples will practice communication and emotional-regulation strategies, identify specific behaviors necessary for rebuilding trust, and explore vulnerabilities within each partner, the relationship, and the circumstances surrounding them. Intentional evening experiences also provide opportunities to step outside of crisis-focused conversations and begin experiencing moments of presence and connection together.

 

The final phase of the retreat focuses on what happens next. Couples will identify priorities, establish concrete goals, develop practices for maintaining communication and connection, and assess their progress over the course of the retreat. The goal is not to promise that a relationship will be repaired in a few days. It is to help couples move from crisis and uncertainty toward greater clarity, safety, understanding, and a meaningful direction for the work ahead.

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Accommodations

Our retreat will take place in a spacious home set in the Scottsdale or Fountain Hills area. 

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What's Included

The cost of the retreat includes the clinician's fees, lodging, program materials, breakfast each day but exclusive of airfare/travel to and from airport, lunch and dinner. 

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Pre-Retreat Phone Consultation

Your fee includes a 30 minute phone consultation to plan expectations prior to the retreat.

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Objectives

By the conclusion of the retreat, couples will:​

1. Assess the impact of infidelity on each partner and the relationship, including emotional, relational, behavioral, and trauma-related responses.

2. Develop communication and emotional-regulation strategies for remaining engaged during difficult conversations without escalating, withdrawing, or becoming overwhelmed.

3. Increase understanding of the betrayed partner’s pain and help both partners recognize the emotional and relational magnitude of the betrayal.

4. Understand intrusive thoughts, triggers, and rumination following infidelity and develop strategies for responding to these experiences more effectively.

5. Clarify disclosure needs and expectations and, when clinically appropriate, participate in a structured disclosure process that supports honesty, understanding, and emotional safety.

6. Engage in therapist-facilitated dialogues necessary for healing, including conversations that may have previously been avoided, repeatedly escalated, or remained unresolved.

7. Identify the characteristics and observable behaviors necessary for rebuilding trust, moving beyond promises toward consistent actions that demonstrate trustworthiness.

8. Assess vulnerabilities within self, the relationship, and the couple’s broader context that may require attention as recovery progresses.

9. Experience intentional moments of positive connection through structured couple activities and savoring practices that help partners temporarily step outside the crisis and reconnect with their relationship.

10. Develop an individualized recovery plan that identifies priorities, specific goals, relationship practices, and next steps for continuing the healing process after the retreat.

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Agenda

 

Day 1: Orientation and Understanding your Relationship

 

Evening | Beginning the Retreat

 

The first evening provides an opportunity for the couple and therapist to become comfortable with one another, establish expectations, and begin understanding the story of the relationship.

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• Wine and cheese casual orientation with the couple and therapist

• Overview of the retreat structure, expectations, and goals

• Structured Dialogue: The Story of Me & The Story of Us

• Beginning outcome assessment

 

Day 2: Understanding the Impact of Infidelity & Beginning Recovery

 

Morning | Understanding the Impact of Infidelity & Beginning Recovery 

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Before addressing the most difficult aspects of infidelity, couples will develop ways of communicating that allow them to stay engaged with one another during emotionally challenging conversations.

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• Communication skills for greater depth and understanding

• Emotional regulation and co-regulation

• Staying engaged during difficult conversations

• Recognizing and managing escalation, withdrawal, and emotional flooding

• Practicing deeper conversations with therapist support

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Afternoon | Understanding the Infidelity Crisis

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The afternoon focuses on developing a clearer understanding of how the infidelity has affected each partner and the relationship.

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• Infidelity Impact Assessment

• Relationship history and infidelity history

• Understanding the magnitude of betrayal-related pain

• Intrusive thoughts, triggers, and rumination

• Strategies for managing intrusive thinking and rumination

• Understanding the role and benefits of disclosure

• Preparing for the disclosure process, when appropriate

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Evening | Creating Moments of Connection

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Connecting Dinner & Savoring Experience

Couples will have private time together using a guided clinical savoring process designed to help them slow down, become more present, and intentionally notice moments of positive connection.

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Day 3: Creating Safety, Rebuilding Trust, & Addressing Vulnerabilities

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Morning | Conversations Necessary for Healing

 

Based upon the couple's needs and the assessment completed during the retreat, the morning will follow one of two therapeutic pathways:

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Option 1: Facilitated Disclosure

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• Therapist-guided disclosure process

• Responding to important questions

• Supporting emotional regulation throughout disclosure

• Processing the meaning and impact of what is shared

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Option 2: Dialogues Necessary for Healing

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• Identifying critical conversations that need to occur

• Therapist-coached dialogues

• Exploring the meaning beneath difficult issues

• Increasing understanding, responsiveness, and emotional depth

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Afternoon | Re-Setting Trust and & Strengthening the Relationship

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The focus shifts from understanding what has happened toward identifying what will be necessary to create greater safety and support recovery.

• Re-Setting Trust

• Identifying important characteristics of trust

• Translating trust into specific, observable behaviors

• Assessing vulnerabilities in self, relationship, and context

• Identifying vulnerabilities requiring continued attention

• Developing strategies for healing and strengthening identified vulnerabilities

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Evening | intentional Couple Connection

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Couples will have private time for a planned connecting experience designed to provide space for presence, enjoyment, and positive interaction outside of the therapeutic sessions.

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Day 4: Integration, Goals & the Path Forward

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The final session brings together what the couple has learned and experienced throughout the retreat and establishes a direction for continued recovery.

• Temperature Readings: Developing an ongoing ritual for relationship communication and connection

• Review of major insights and changes during the retreat

• Identification of continuing areas of vulnerability

• Relationship and individual goal setting

• Creating priorities and next steps for continued recovery

• Planning for ongoing therapeutic support when appropriate

• Completion of outcome assessment

• Reflection on progress from the beginning to the conclusion of the retreat

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Dr. Butch Losey​

513-688-0092

butchlosey@waybridgecounseling.com