Therapists recognize that there is an accepted definition of infidelity. Even so, I routinely hear debates in my office between partners about the definition...

Intimate relationships can be a healing place. Moments of tension, stress and conflict in your relationship can actually be times for healing. I met with a n...

It's a story that I have heard before. In a previous session, a therapist has taught the couple to make "I" statements or some other communication technique....

When I think of couples in conflict, I certainly think about how I can help the couple in therapy structure their conversation in productive ways. The conten...

As I write this article, I am aware that I will probably sound like an alarmist, but I write this as a cautionary prelude to you sharing your pain with someo...

You have felt for a while now that your partner is less intimate with you, less engaged, maybe a bit more distracted and you wonder if he or she is having an...

The simple truth is that every couple gets busy. Personal pursuits, friends, and career can all threaten the intimacy and erode the commitment to one another...

Couples have told me that they may have sixty to seventy thoughts a day about the affair relationship. Some couples believe that they are completely without ...

Trust is not an end point or a commodity in a relationship. It is a way of being. Couples in therapy want specific interventions to recreate trust after infi...

It is not uncommon for couples to come to therapy distinguishing between sexual and emotional infidelity. Sometimes the distinction is made to highlight the ...

As a couple's therapist working with couples recovering from infidelity, I regularly encounter situations in which the hurt partner desperately needs compass...

I just returned from a 10-day intensive residential training program at the Satir Institute of the Pacific in British Columbia, Canada. It was a fantastic ex...

In desperate times, people do desperate things. Following the discovery of an affair, couples do things in an attempt to limit damage, make things better or ...

Many systemic therapist believe that there is circular reciprocity in relationships. In other words, in the context of the relationship, each partner shares ...

Last week, I presented a two-day workshop on pornography and sex addiction at Xavier University. The audience was mostly grad students and a few school couns...