Knowing your Couples Therapist: Disclosure of the Therapist
Maybe you are sitting in the therapy office week after week and yet you know very little about the personal world of your therapist....
Dr. Butch Losey
Helping couples with:
managing the crisis of infidelity,
deepening intimacy, and
bettering conflict resolution and communication skills
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Dec 27, 2020
- 3 min
Change Your Approach to Change Your Partner
Recently, I took out an old copy of the well-known book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. The book has the...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Feb 3, 2020
- 2 min
When your Spouse Argues it was not an Affair
Therapists recognize that there is an accepted definition of infidelity. Even so, I routinely hear debates in my office between partners...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- May 21, 2019
- 2 min
Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner
Intimate relationships can be a healing place. Moments of tension, stress and conflict in your relationship can actually be times for...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Sep 2, 2018
- 3 min
"Stop it". The Couples Therapist Frustrated Response and What He/She Really Means
It's a story that I have heard before. In a previous session, a therapist has taught the couple to make "I" statements or some other...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- May 18, 2018
- 3 min
The Intentional Use of Silence and Self in Conflict Communication
When I think of couples in conflict, I certainly think about how I can help the couple in therapy structure their conversation in...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Mar 6, 2018
- 5 min
The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair
As I write this article, I am aware that I will probably sound like an alarmist, but I write this as a cautionary prelude to you sharing...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Dec 18, 2017
- 2 min
Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship
You have felt for a while now that your partner is less intimate with you, less engaged, maybe a bit more distracted and you wonder if he...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Dec 9, 2017
- 3 min
Three Basic Strategies to Strengthen Commitment
The simple truth is that every couple gets busy. Personal pursuits, friends, and career can all threaten the intimacy and erode the...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Nov 10, 2017
- 5 min
Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair
Dr. Butch Losey Author of Managing the Aftermath of Infidelity Here are some thoughts about managing intrusive thinking. It is one of the...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Oct 15, 2017
- 3 min
10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner
Trust is not an end point or a commodity in a relationship. It is a way of being. Couples in therapy want specific interventions to...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Sep 10, 2017
- 5 min
Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity
It is not uncommon for couples to come to therapy distinguishing between sexual and emotional infidelity. Sometimes the distinction is...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Sep 3, 2017
- 2 min
Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events
As a couple's therapist working with couples recovering from infidelity, I regularly encounter situations in which the hurt partner...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Aug 10, 2017
- 2 min
Transformative Systemic Change in the Couple Therapy Experience
I just returned from a 10-day intensive residential training program at the Satir Institute of the Pacific in British Columbia, Canada....
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Jul 8, 2017
- 3 min
A Few Boundaries to Consider Immediately Following Discovery of an Affair
In desperate times, people do desperate things. Following the discovery of an affair, couples do things in an attempt to limit damage,...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Jun 30, 2017
- 2 min
Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment
Many systemic therapist believe that there is circular reciprocity in relationships. In other words, in the context of the relationship,...
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Dr. Butch Losey
- Jun 25, 2017
- 2 min
Porn Effects You and Your Relationship
Last week, I presented a two-day workshop on pornography and sex addiction at Xavier University. The audience was mostly grad students...
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