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Feb 3
2 min

When your Spouse Argues it was not an Affair

Therapists recognize that there is an accepted definition of infidelity. Even so, I routinely hear debates in my office between partners ...

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Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner

Dr. Butch Losey

May 21, 2019
2 min

Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner

Intimate relationships can be a healing place. Moments of tension, stress and conflict in your relationship can actually be times for hea...

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The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair

Dr. Butch Losey

Mar 6, 2018
5 min

The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair

As I write this article, I am aware that I will probably sound like an alarmist, but I write this as a cautionary prelude to you sharing ...

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Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship

Dr. Butch Losey

Dec 18, 2017
2 min

Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship

You have felt for a while now that your partner is less intimate with you, less engaged, maybe a bit more distracted and you wonder if he...

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Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair

Dr. Butch Losey

Nov 10, 2017
3 min

Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair

Couples have told me that they may have sixty to seventy thoughts a day about the affair relationship. Some couples believe that they are...

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10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner

Dr. Butch Losey

Oct 15, 2017
3 min

10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner

Trust is not an end point or a commodity in a relationship. It is a way of being. Couples in therapy want specific interventions to recre...

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Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity

Dr. Butch Losey

Sep 10, 2017
4 min

Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity

It is not uncommon for couples to come to therapy distinguishing between sexual and emotional infidelity. Sometimes the distinction is ma...

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Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events

Dr. Butch Losey

Sep 3, 2017
2 min

Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events

As a couple's therapist working with couples recovering from infidelity, I regularly encounter situations in which the hurt partner despe...

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Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment

Dr. Butch Losey

Jun 30, 2017
2 min

Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment

Many systemic therapist believe that there is circular reciprocity in relationships. In other words, in the context of the relationship, ...

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Dr. Butch Losey

Helping couples with:

managing the crisis of infidelity,

deepening intimacy, and

bettering conflict resolution and communication skills

When your Spouse Argues it was not an Affair

Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner

The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair

Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship

Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair

10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner

Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity

Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events

Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment