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    When your Spouse Argues it was not an Affair
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Feb 3, 2020
    • 2 min

    When your Spouse Argues it was not an Affair

    Therapists recognize that there is an accepted definition of infidelity. Even so, I routinely hear debates in my office between partners ...
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    Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • May 21, 2019
    • 2 min

    Be a "Healing Presence" for Your Partner

    Intimate relationships can be a healing place. Moments of tension, stress and conflict in your relationship can actually be times for hea...
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    The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Mar 6, 2018
    • 5 min

    The Potential Dangers in Talking with Friends and Family about your Partner's Affair

    As I write this article, I am aware that I will probably sound like an alarmist, but I write this as a cautionary prelude to you sharing ...
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    Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Dec 18, 2017
    • 2 min

    Pornography: The Third Partner in Your Relationship

    You have felt for a while now that your partner is less intimate with you, less engaged, maybe a bit more distracted and you wonder if he...
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    Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Nov 10, 2017
    • 3 min

    Managing the Intrusive Thinking Associated with Your Partner's Affair

    Couples have told me that they may have sixty to seventy thoughts a day about the affair relationship. Some couples believe that they are...
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    10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Oct 15, 2017
    • 3 min

    10 Characteristics of a Trusting Partner

    Trust is not an end point or a commodity in a relationship. It is a way of being. Couples in therapy want specific interventions to recre...
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    Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Sep 10, 2017
    • 4 min

    Lying About the Affair: What Men Need to Know About Emotional and Sexual Infidelity

    It is not uncommon for couples to come to therapy distinguishing between sexual and emotional infidelity. Sometimes the distinction is ma...
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    Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Sep 3, 2017
    • 2 min

    Helping Your Partner Following Your Affair: Using Compassionate Response to Manage Triggering Events

    As a couple's therapist working with couples recovering from infidelity, I regularly encounter situations in which the hurt partner despe...
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    Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment
    Dr. Butch Losey
    • Jun 30, 2017
    • 2 min

    Shared Responsibility Does Not Mean Equal Responsibility: An Approach to Infidelity Treatment

    Many systemic therapist believe that there is circular reciprocity in relationships. In other words, in the context of the relationship, ...
    146 views0 comments
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