Dr. Butch Losey

Every relationship includes complaints. You may be frustrated that your partner didn't follow through on something, disappointed by how a situation was handled, or need something in the relationship to change. Expressing those concerns is not necessarily unhealthy. In fact, being able to talk openly about dissatisfaction is an important part of a healthy relationship. Problems often develop when a complaint about something that happened becomes criticism of who your partner i

One of the biggest problems with not addressing relationship problems early is that small issues have a way of becoming much bigger issues over time. When problems are not addressed and resolved, resentment and bitterness can begin to build. Partners may become more frustrated with each other, communication becomes more difficult, and trust can slowly erode. What started as a relatively small concern can eventually become part of a much larger pattern of conflict and disconne

Dr. Butch Losey Emotional intimacy is a deep sense of connection and trust between you and your partner. It involves being able to share...

Dr. Butch Losey Discussing difficult topics with your partner can be challenging, but it's an important part of maintaining a healthy and...

Dr. Butch Losey Author of Managing the Aftermath of Infidelity As human beings, we all make mistakes. Sometimes, those mistakes hurt...

Dr. Butch Losey Author of Managing the Aftermath of Infidelity There is no quick fix to adjusting boundaries in a relationship. When...

Maybe you are sitting in the therapy office week after week and yet you know very little about the personal world of your therapist....

Recently, I took out an old copy of the well-known book How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. The book has the prominence of being in print for 85 years. It was originally published in 1936 and its original focus had little to do with couples relationships. Yet, I can’t help but recognize how relative the content is as I read it from a lens of a couples therapist, a therapist who believes that it is better to change oneself than it is to work hard to chang

Intimate relationships can be a healing place. Moments of tension, stress and conflict in your relationship can actually be times for healing. I met with a new couple this past week. They did not wait long in our first session before they allowed a disagreement to start. The husband became quite irritated with his wife's perspective of the relationship and began to discount her opinion and interrupted her repeatedly. I asked the husband if he would be willing to take a more p

It's a story that I have heard before. In a previous session, a therapist has taught the couple to make "I" statements or some other...

When I think of couples in conflict, I certainly think about how I can help the couple in therapy structure their conversation in...